'The death of my father, a coat of red nail varnish and coming out to my family.' Jason Okundaye had “always conceived of the life of a Black gay boy as one of concealment and secrets.” But that changed in 2016 when he received a call that changed his world. His father was dead. And with that came the realisation that he wanted to share his entire life with his family. In this poignant piece about love and acceptance, Okundaye tells us about that terrible day, and how it served as the catalyst to his freedom.